My dear husband took me out to dinner for Mother’s Day. While we were attending to a toddler who kept throwing the crayons, his milk, and basically anything he could find on the table my husband asked me a few “mom” questions. (Incidentally, he wasn’t feeling well. Typically the throwing isn’t so bad until the meal is over.)
my husband: What has been most surprising to you about being a mom?
Me: The first year of Mac’s life. I really had no idea I would want to nest at home with him as much as I did. I felt so very attached to him. I wasn’t expecting that strong of a bond so early on. It was both an incredible feeling but also very foreign to me since I didn’t feel so much my usual independent self.
my husband: What do you enjoy most about being a mom?
Me: That I am Mac’s chief nurturer. He goes to his “Da” when he’s having fun but he comes to me when he’s sad, hurting or not feeling well. I love comforting and cuddling with him. I love that he gives me kisses when I ask and even sometimes spontaneously too. I love that I am the only person in the world who has the role as his mom.
my husband: What is the hardest part about being a mom?
Me: Knowing how to teach and discipline my child. I am not the type of person who ever wanted to work with kids as a career. I briefly considered being a teacher, and I emphasize briefly, but that was it. Now, in addition to being his mom, I am a teacher to him. That’s hard for me. I keep thinking he’ll pick things up by osmosis but I need to be intentional with him too. Also, discipline. It’s difficult to discern where the boundaries are with discipline. Is it something that I need to consistently address or do I let it go? I am a fairly persistent person which has been useful as a parent. I’ve learned that if I continue to draw the line in the same spot he’ll eventually obey me but if I waver, even a little bit, it’s all up for grabs.
Thanks for a great Mother’s Day my husband! Thank you for pursuing conversation despite the distractions during the meal. May we never be the couple out to dinner that eats in silence…like there’s even a chance of that for the next several years!
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